Have you ever come home from a walk or a drive and realized you actually remember very little of it?
Have you ever noticed a bruise or cut on your body and had no recollection of how it may have got there?
Have you ever walked away after an entire conversation and recognised that you can’t remember a word the other person said, or that you have lost whole parts of the conversation?
Have you ever walked into a doorway, car bumper bar or tripped over a step when rushing?
What is the common denominator here?
Well, if you answered yes to any or all of these questions, you have probably been lost in your thoughts. That’s right, thinking about something that has happened in the past, worrying about something in the future, considering what to say or do next, or lost in a train of repetitive thought.
In other words, you have not been present with what you were doing.
In my childhood I lived with a father struggling with his own demons, who was a heavy drinker and at times could be verbally abusive. Being highly sensitive, my way of coping was to be quiet, be invisible and to completely tune out what he was saying. I could literally be in the room looking at my father, and be a million miles away in my head, absorbed in some personal story or fantasy.
Whilst this got me through childhood relatively unscathed, the legacy of this behaviour pattern is that it can still be challenging for me to be in the present moment, particularly if something difficult is presenting itself, or I feel stressed.
We have all had different experiences that effect how we handle life, but each and everyone of us has moments of getting completely lost in a maze of thoughts.
It is when we are unaware of this and it becomes a way of living that we miss out on all the nuances and wonders of life – from really hearing the words and engaging in a heart-felt conversation with another, to enjoying the present moment experience, to noticing the subtle intuitive messages that guide our lives.
If you are interested in tapping into the wisdom of living in the moment, Eckhart Tolle has written a great book titled “The Power of Now”.
Eckhart Tolle simply states, “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.”
Are you living in your head, lost in a maze of thoughts, and missing out on the present moment?
From my heart to yours,
PS. Next week I will share with you my own personal tools and tactics for living in the present moment.